20 BAD Habits which are stopping your growth and 7 step process to correct them.
20 BAD Habits which are stopping your growth and other wisdom from What got you here won’t take you there Book Review. So the new year started and also the new challenges. How interesting life is, we all get a fair chance, most of us, to be the best we can be. Being best calls for developing certain set of traits, reaching to that goal you have always dreamt of requires a particular set of qualities and skills which will enable you to reach where you want to be. But
there is also a flip side to it, at times, you need not develop new skills but actually give up some of them to propel further. Marshall Goldsmith, the master coach, who is featured as the top 50 Thinkers in management stream has some serious advice for the people who are looking to grow themselves. A book published in January 2007, has lot to offer when it comes to serious advice for people who are serious about growing themselves to next level. What got you here won’t get you there, contains the wisdom highlighting those bad habits we as managers develop over time which eventually hamper our growth and must be rectified to make to the next level. Below are few of the nuggets of wisdom from the book. But before that here are 20 BAD Habits
1. The need to win at all cost: Every argument ( even a small one) is taken as the big mahabharata which must be won at all cost.
2.Too much value addition: the inner desire to add value to everything, just about everything.
3. Rating others: Judging them, the need to put your personal standards on everyone else.
4. Sarcasm: the needless comment
5. Starting with NO, BUT, HOWEVER
6. Withholding information as long as you can
7. I am very smart you see, “Telling the world how smart you are” at every opportunity.
8. “Explaining too much”, let me tell you why that won’t work.
9. Speaking when angry: the need to manage subordinates by anger
10. I cannot praise: the inability to praise or reward someone for their work.
11. Claiming credit for everything that is not yours.
12. You know my glorious past
13. Excuse: for everything which went wrong
14. No Regret: refusing it totally
15. Playing favorites always: means playing unfair too.
16. No Gratitude:
17. I am not responsible: playing the blame game
18. Punishing the messenger
19. An excessive need to be “Me”.
20. Not listening: oh I can’t listen to everything.
The higher your level of success, the more destructive your bad habits become. Many more brilliant eye opening insights in the book. Do take time and read. You can follow a simple, seven-step procedure to cure a bad workplace habit.
- The best method for identifying areas of strength and weakness is “360-degree feedback.”
- An apology serves three purposes.
- It claims responsibility for past mistakes.
- It announces your commitment to change.
- It works as an agreement between both parties.
- Just saying you’re sorry for past behavior is not enough. You must announce loudly and clearly, again and again, that you are committed to making a change.
- Great leaders listen attentively and make the person they are listening to feel like the most important person in the room.
- Conveying sincere gratitude by saying “Thank you” is a talent and an asset.
- Real, lasting change cannot occur without follow-up, which allows you to measure your improvement and reminds people that you’re working on changing.
- Seeking feed forward is a four-step process.
- Choose a behavior you would like to change.
- Have a one-on-one conversation with someone to explain your desire for making this change.
- Ask that person for two suggestions about how you can make the change.
- Accept these suggestions as feed forward ideas you will implement.
Repeat this process over and over with different people.